In a world that seems like all anyone cares about is how we look & what we have, life can start to feel transactional at times. It is easy to confuse one for the other, but understanding which one to place emphasis on is the key to discernment.
You might find yourself feeling like you have to engage in the game of comparison like people around us. Digital communities like Instagram provide a perfect platform for people watching and arbitrary comparison. Unfortunately the things we see and track on those platforms are only leading indicators that don’t help us tell much of a story in the grand scheme.
The only way to understand a situation in whole is by asking the right questions (something I believe we should all hold ourselves more accountable in doing) and tracking indicators that show signs of growth, not arbitrary metrics that don’t tell a story.
This thought process can be applied to vanity on many levels. When we look at things like money, appearance or even social media presence, we can look at them and get a general understanding of what a person has accumulated over time, but that is all we can assume. We cannot contextualize those understandings looking at them as individual components of success because they don’t tell a full story.
When we discuss value we look at it in context and relative to the situation a person finds her/himself in. We contextualize the data and information at our disposal which usually includes metrics, but we ask questions that give us a greater understanding of a situation in whole instead of its individual parts. Seeing value is the ability to interpret the metrics that matter to assess the right path forward